Morning Grounding Ritual

If you don't already know, I currently live in the Southwest. My husband's job has had us here in this dusty, brown part of the country for the past twelve years and we have another two and a half to go, at which point we are piling into an RV and flooring it to anywhere that is green.

In other words, I'm not a fan of living in the Southwest.

Don't get me wrong. I'm grateful for the experience. And above all, I'm grateful to have a roof over my head and money to keep my family fed. But my soul is happy in the rich, green landscapes of the east coast. Growing up, I didn't realize New England was such a unique area. I thought everyone was lucky enough to live a mile from the ocean, to keep gardens that didn't require much watering, to spend a lazy Sunday at the park lying in the grass and staring at the clouds.

This was NOT my husband's childhood experience. Not once but TWICE he found himself ass first in a barrel cactus, which if you're not familiar with these pretty-but-vicious plants they very much fall into the category of look-but-don't-touch. 

Courtesy of Keyseeker
He didn't spend his springs rolling down hills of lush grass or sledding on a thick blanket of snow come winter. He spent the first thirteen years of his life in shorts 365 days of the year, which is heaven to some but not to this farm-craving girl. And after spending some time in Texas, he returned to Arizona. I came into the picture a few years later, and now we live in New Mexico.

Sonoran Desert
My point, dear readers, is despite the daily mantras that there is a lesson to be learned here, that I'm exactly where I'm supposed to be, that there is a reason for everything, I don't find peace in the constant (and often brutal) sunshine. Nature is what centers me. Dew-soaked grass soothes my soul when I'm distressed; crimson autumn leaves heal the mind when I need respite from the frenetic pace of life. And while I loved the arid beauty that is the Sonoran desert, filled with towering saguaro cacti and orange-flowering octillo, this is the Chihuahuan desert, and it's a sparse, desolate comparison to what I grew to love (and deeply miss) in Arizona. 

No matter how hard I try to see the bright side, there are days when my heart—nay, my soul!— long for the life that thrives in a green environment, After all, isn't there something to be said about a thriving environment? When the earth is fertile and bountiful, doesn't your spirit seem to flourish with it? If that's true, then what does a stagnant, barren, harsh landscape produce?

Crankiness. I can tell you from experience this rain-loving, tree-hugging, grass-beneath-her-toes girl gets mighty cranky when she feels disconnected from the loving, peaceful energy that the earth provides.

And therein lies my lesson.

We absorb that earth's energy any time we are connected to it. Our hands when we're gardening. Our feet when we're walking on the warm sands of a beach. Our backsides when we're.... just joking. Though I imagine sex in the woods is probably a great energy boost in numerous ways. *wink wink nudge nudge*

In order to keep myself balanced, I ground myself every morning in my backyard and any time I feel disconnected or unsettled spiritually. This can also be helpful if you've witnessed something traumatic, like an accident, or had a confrontation that leaves you rattled. I do this in conjunction with smudging, which I will also describe.

How to Ground Yourself

The great thing about grounding is that it only takes a couple of minutes and is really easy to do.

1. Take your shoes off and get your feet in some dirt or grass. If you live in the city and can't get to a park (or don't want to do this in front of the hot dog vendor) you can always use a small pan of dirt or even a small patch of sod if you're super motivated. Personally, I feel most connected when the arches of my feet are in direct contact with the soil, so I really like to work those bad boys in there.

2. Close your eyes, take a few deep, cleansing breaths and focus your mind.

3. Picture roots growing out of the soles of your feet into the dirt. Imagine those roots branching off, burrowing deeper into the nutrient-rich soil, feel your body connecting with the energies of nature. You should feel a sense of peace and calm come over you. Take as much or as little time as you want. Spirituality is all personal preference. I usually take about 2-3 minutes. Some days I feel so disconnected I pull up a chair and read a book. It's what feels best for you.

Balancing Option

If I'm a good girl and got out of bed on time, I like doing a balancing blessing in conjunction with the sunrise. It just feels appropriate, a fresh approach to a new day. On those days, or really any time I feel I need an extra boost, I do the following:

After grounding and picturing my roots, I stand with my arms outstretched over my head in Goddess pose and say: Sky above me

Then I lower my arms so my palms are facing the earth (still standing) and say: Earth below me

Then I cross my arms over my chest, hands on shoulders (God pose) and say: Balance within me!

I feel this helps connect not only my feminine and masculine energies (because there is a little of God and Goddess in all of us) but I also feel this helps symbolically balance the heaviness of reality with the airiness of dreaming. Because, despite what society says, you never want to be too serious. Always nurture that inner dreamer!


If you're looking to smudge, this couldn't get any easier. I like to do this immediately after grounding while my feet are still in the dirt.You can purchase smudging sticks that are pre-made. (I'm working on a post on how to make your own, so stay tuned!) I like these. Or you can cut a few twigs of rosemary off a plant, give it a week or so to dry, and use that. You can even use some dried evergreen. Really anything that is fragrant, natural, and dried will work. 

Once you light the smudging stick, give it a moment to burn out and smolder. If it doesn't, blow it out. But you want it to continue to smolder and give off smoke (the way a cigarette does).

Then, once the risk of lighting your hair on fire has passed, slowly circle your head with the stick, keeping peaceful thoughts and calm mind. Work your way down your body in slow, rhythmic circles. Pay attention to how you feel. It's hard to describe, but you can experience a "stuck" feeling while you're smudging, like you can't get that area to relax. That means that area needs more work. Just be patient with yourself and take the time you need to cleanse. Additionally, I like to take a bit of extra time at my feet, really grounding my energy to earth.

And you're done! You can even smudge your pets if they've been ill or extra grumpy, but mine don't tolerate this at all. Then again, my dog is petrified of spoons and blowing curtains, so it may just be my furry children.

What is your morning ritual? Do you have a certain something-something you like to do to prepare for the day?

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  1. Morning, felt compelled to write fully understanding your need of East Coast Earth.
    Though I wear no religious label, found that nearly all individuals of various faiths seem to harbor this same need to be close to what/where they were born.
    Til you return to your "roots home", you may want to try listening to some CD's with sounds of nature and mediate when needed.
    American Natives used many natural earthly goods which can be soothing.
    There's a long thorn-less cactus stem which when dried sounds like rain when turned over. This effect is caused by it's numerous seeds still locked inside rolling from one end to another. Best wishes.

    1. Thank you very much for your suggestions! I have a rain CD that is my go-to when I have trouble falling asleep. Never thought of a rain stick, though! I am absolutely going to look into that cactus stem. Seems like a wonderful mind soother, like a zen garden. Thanks for stopping by! And thanks for taking a moment to comment! =) Have a fantastic weekend.

  2. Greetings, saw these cactus "rain" sticks on Ebay. You may wish to check this out. There are smaller/longer ones. Peaceful sound.

    1. I'm so totally excited to try these! I already have plans to leave it on my desk so I can go to my happy place if I'm feeling stuck while writing. =P Thank you for the link! Definitely purchasing one! =D Thanks for stopping by!

  3. Hello, Forgot to add you may like Johnnie Lawson's Nature sounds on YouTube.
    Also his meditation videos are excellent. Like "Relaxation Meditation Music 1 Musique Méditation Relaxation"

    1. Ohhh he has a rain track AT the ocean! =D Just bookmarked him and checking him out this weekend! Thanks for the suggestion! =D

  4. i do the same ritual every morning,your writing skills are amazing.keep up with good work dear.blessed be😄😍

    1. What a sweet thing to say! You totally made my day! (Rhyme unintended) Thanks for stopping by and sharing your kind words! Hope you have a fantastic week. =D

  5. I love this. I was just listening to a mentor who was telling me the need for a daily or weekly ritual to keep me grounded. I have sage (and hopefully some rosemary is rooting) in my garden that I am going to learn how to tie up properly to dry out. I've done it before, but it looks liek a lot of string and the ones you buy don't seem to have so much, I want to see how to do it so it looks neat and tidy. I think I've been procrastinating the ritual because I think it needs to take a lot of time (um, I do this with my dishes, laundry and cleaning also). Anyways... thank you for the inspiration!

    1. Ha! I'm the same way. But the more you do it the easier (and thus quicker) it becomes. If you don't want to bundle your sage, you could always dry the individual branches and use it that way. I do that quite often with sage or rosemary, and they burn very well. It works well for individual morning use since it's a smaller amount. It's when you're doing a larger area or group of people that the bundles are necessary, because otherwise you're lighting a new sprig every few minutes. =D

      Good luck in your gardening AND grounding. =P Have a spectacular week! =D

  6. I love your writing! I bless you with gratitude. This post was exactly what I needed this morning. I too have moved home for my husband's work. It's been very disorienting. Videos of the ocean and listening to sounds of crashing waves soothes my soul. Blessed Be So Mote it Be♡

    1. Thank you for your kind words! ♥ I hope you can find some balance that brings you peace in your new location. And I know what you mean about the ocean. There's just nothing like it! Oh, what I wouldn't do to get my feet in some briny water! =P Thanks for taking a moment to comment and sharing your kindness. Merry Meet! =D

  7. I love this ritual. It's one of my favorites. But I do live in a place that gets a lot of snow and winter is really hard for me. Do you have any suggestions on what to do when there's no grass or earth in sight??

    1. You can absolutely ground inside! I still recommend doing so barefoot, but you can do it with shoes (or slippers in the cold weather!) if need be.

      Instead of heading outside, envision yourself standing outside in a place that makes you happy. If the winters are tough for you, maybe a warm beach or a grassy park. Imagine the texture of the sand between your toes. Feel the sunlight on your skin. Smell the scent of summer. Really visualize your outside happy place. Once you feel oh so cozy in your mental escape, you can ground as usual, picturing the roots growing out from the soles of your feet, deep into the ground, etc.

      If you're seeking extra earth energy, you can hold natural stones in your hands as you perform your visualization. When not in use, you can leave them on the windowsill to bathe in the sun/moonlight. You could even keep a small bowl of clean soil or sand on the windowsill and leave the rocks in there when not in use.

      If you don't have any already, I would also suggest some nice indoor plants. Not only is it pleasant to see something green in those dark days of winter, but they help purify the air when opening the windows isn't an option. If you have pets, check the ASPCA website to see which are pet friendly. My cat will defy gravity if it means getting to eat something leafy...which he then promptly pukes up. =S

      Hang in there! ♥ I know the long darkness of winter can be rough!

  8. I so miss Arizona

    1. You're not alone in that boat; I encounter a lot of people who miss it. I enjoyed my time there, but I'm just not a desert gal. =/


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